My future brother-in-law is upset about the choice of food at our reception. Should I pay to have something special prepared for him? Help!
Dear Parsley,
My future brother-in-law is upset about the choice of food at our reception. We are getting married at a bed & breakfast and having the dinner catered. After the ceremony, the receiving line will flow onto a deck where there will be tables with shrimp, veggie trays, olives, nuts, chocolate-covered strawberries, crackers and cheese. There will be a bar serving beer and wine. The meal includes lasagna, salad, and bread sticks and will be served on elegantly set tables with a full bar option. My brother-in-law said it's rude to have it catered, he is allergic to tomatoes, and that most people provide the choice of two entrees to wedding guests. Should I pay to have something special prepared for him? Our food budget is already way over. Help!
Sincerely, Tanya
Dear Tanya, I have the perfect solution. UNinvite your brother-in-law and invite me! I love lasagna. All kidding aside, your brother-in-law is the rude one here and way out of line. This is your wedding. As such, you have every right to serve what you feel the majority of guests will enjoy and what you can afford (and already you are over budget). You selections sound thoughtful and tasteful.
So to answer you question: No, do NOT order something special for your brother-in-law. (A book about manners is more what he needs.) As an adult, it is his responsibility to find alternatives that he can eat, and clearly they are there. Chances are very good he will survive. Your fiancé needs to step in here and tell it like it is. After all, it's his brother.
Sincerely, Parsley Adams
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